Hum..... is there a problem?
If someone wanted to know why I am not in here each and every day, they could try this on for size:[p]I am the solo parent of a nearly 12-yo boy, who is not only gifted beyond high school and into the college level, but who is also very active in extracurricular stuff as well. I am the primary caretaker for two aging, chronically ill and disabled parents. Of my two younger sisters, only one lives locally, and she teaches full time and has two kids herself, one in middle and one in high school, and while she devotes as much time to my parents as she can scrap together, the reality is that 90% of it falls to me. This means medical issues, transportation issues, paperwork and medical claims issues, human dynamics issues, physical help at and repairs of their home, etc.[p]Since New Years Eve, my father has been to the ER twice, been in-patient twice, spent a month at a rehab hospital (where I spent 12 hrs. shifts w/my mom taking the other 12 hrs.), and had spinal vetebroplasty twice, in February and March. 4 days after my father was discharged to home from the rehab hospital in January, my estranged husband\'s brother dropped dead of a heart attack, where he lived with my estranged\'s father, out of town. In April, the month after my father\'s last surgery, my estranged\'s father had angioplasty and a triple bypass here in town. I was at the hospital with him/them each day for most of the day and night, and spent the 1.5 wks after HIS hospital discharge with him at my estranged\'s apartment, because he required medical monitoring and human supervision and emotional supportduring the first chunck of his recovery time. Because I am disabled, I do not report daily to a wage-paying job, and my estranged husband does not have the liberty of taking many days off of work.[p]My son was constantly in different summer recreation programs and taking classes all summer, as well as private viola lessons.[p]Then on July 29th or so, my other had a heart attack. We started out in the ER and ended up with her having angioplasty and stent placement, she was at extreme risk for a bypass due to chronic prednisone dependance for Systemic Lupus and Rheumatoid Arthritis, and she was in the hospital for about 3 days. So my days and early evenings were spent with her at the hospital, and I stayed with my father at night because HE requires supervision and assistance. After she was discharged to home I needed to be THERE with her, as well as try to hold the fabric of my other responsibilities together. Most weekends are spent taking care of stuff there that she is prohibited, physically, from being allowed to do. [p]I haven\'t completed a fileable tax return in 4 years, the grass in my backyard is 3 feet tall, my mower is broken, the only way to walk through this household is with a shovel. Today I discovered the weeds on the side of the house are FOUR feet tall. Week before last our refridgerator died........[p]I\'m lucky to get bills paid before they are overdue, I live out of baskets of clean clothes, and my car is covered in 6 inches of desert filth. I\'ve nearly lost 5, two-story tall pine trees because I can\'t remember or find the time to go outside and water them. I can\'t remember the last time I balanced my checkbook, found the surface of ALL of the counters in the kitchen, or vaccummed the living room, hallways, or bedrooms.[p]My twice-weekly allergy shots had to be discontinued because I haven\'t had the opportunity to GET there to get them. My annual mammogram is now almost two years overdue, which isn\'t good when you\'re 43 yrs. old.[p]And, although I suspect it\'s not worth a heck of a lot, I am a moderator on VOP. Granted, this involves very little admin type activities, but I am two full projects behind THERE ("Glossary" and "Research" projects).[p]I\'m lucky to get 4 hrs. sleep a night and frequently just don\'t bother.....haven\'t been able to cram more than 72 hrs. in between sleep periods, tho. Doing so, however, doesn\'t help my chronic pain one iota.[p]I also am list owner of a disability-related forum, which involved admin activities at least every other day.
Many days, if I try to stretch myself any further, I am sure I will splinter. And of course, every few days Winbloze throws me yet another curve - which takes hours and hours to iron out.[p]Yes, sometimes I say to heck with whatever the crisis of the moment is, and steal away some time to post, dig up jokes, actually exchange comprehensive emails, etc. But the free time and the corresponding energy are not plentiful.[p]So, Other Than That, Mrs. Lincoln......how did you like the play?[p]m